Real Manliness
| 16 When Ruth came to her mother-in-law, Naomi asked, "How did it go, my daughter?" Then she told her everything Boaz had done for her 17 and added, "He gave me these six measures of barley, saying, 'Don't go back to your mother-in-law empty-handed.' " 18 Then Naomi said, "Wait, my daughter, until you find out what happens. For the man will not rest until the matter is settled today." (Ruth3:16-18) |
In the culture of the day, Ruth needed economic and social protection, Boaz is more than willing to provide this, but he does so in a dignifying way. He indicates his willingness to protect Ruth, but affirms her noble character. He does not create stifling dependence but offers empowering protectiveness.
Boaz acts with integrity - he does not take advantage of Ruth before sorting out the key issue: there is a relative who is closer to Ruth and therefore has the first right as a Kinsman Redeemer. He tells her to wait until he has sorted it out. He protects Ruth's reputation sending her home before it is known that she came to the threshing floor.
Boaz sends Ruth back with six measures of barley, pointedly indicating that these were for Naomi. We all know the mother-in-law jokes. In giving the threshed barley Boaz is recognising Naomi's advice to Ruth and showing her gracious generosity. Authentic men are able to be sensitively generous - especially in allowing others into their lives.
Boaz is determined - Naomi comments that he will act quickly and decisively to tackle the issue at hand. Many men are slow to deal with key issues and they procrastinate when it comes to being courageous about core-business. Boaz is a great example of being Core-Determined about making the things that matter happen.
Boaz is a great example of authentic masculinity. Gentlemen, how do you rate? Ladies, do you take time to appreciate these qualities in the men around you?
